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Christine Sutherland's avatar

Because Jack earns more, he thinks Jill should serve him, actually be his servant. That’s the crux of it. An adult male sees a female with time on her hands and presumes she should use that time to fulfil servant duties. That’s patriarchy.

The funny thing is, most men in this situation would say they can’t afford to pay for that support, but nevertheless many expect their partners to do it for free, even while working full time themselves. The concept of self responsibility still seems alien to so many.

Konstantin Kunakh's avatar

True, that might be the case in some situations. My point, however, is that it is not always the case. There are other situations in which what Jack expects isn't servitude; it's cooperation in the unified optimization of resource use. It only looks like "servant duties" through feminist optics, which makes no attempt to understand the reasoning, and doesn't distinguish between men who think chores are beneath them, and "female job", and men who don't see it that way, but are trying to use the common resource pool of their couple rationally.